Sibling rivalry and fighting can be one of the most challenging aspects of parenting. It’s natural to wonder, ‘Is there such a thing as too much fighting?’ In a recent ‘Ask Robyn’ video, our expert Robyn Papworth addressed this common concern and offered some valuable insights for parents and carers.
Understanding Conflict Between Siblings
Conflict between siblings is a normal part of human relationships. As Robyn points out, it’s important to recognize that conflict itself isn’t inherently bad; it’s a natural part of growing up and learning social skills. The key is distinguishing between conflict that is developmentally beneficial and conflict that may become toxic.
Is Everyone Feeling Seen and Heard?
One of Robyn’s primary points is to check in with your children by asking, ‘How is everyone feeling?’ Sometimes, when kids feel unheard or unseen, their natural response is to become louder or more withdrawn. This behavior is their way of communicating a need for attention or validation.
Making space for each child to express their feelings can help reduce the intensity of conflicts. It’s crucial to ensure that each child feels respected and valued, which can, in turn, reduce the frequency and intensity of fights.
Recognizing the Need for Movement
Another valuable tip from Robyn is to recognize when children’s fighting becomes more physical or rough and tumble. Often, this signals a need for more physical activity. Engaging in movement-based play, like ball games or jumping on the trampoline, can help channel their energy constructively.
If your children are play fighting, consider suggesting a game or activity that allows for healthy physical interaction. This approach not only helps release built-up energy but also teaches kids how to handle their emotions in a positive way.
Setting Boundaries: Firm but Fair
While it’s important to allow space for kids to express their feelings, it’s equally essential to set boundaries. Robyn emphasizes that while conflict is normal, it’s not okay to take out frustrations on others. Encouraging kids to manage their emotions without harming others reinforces respectful behavior.
Final Thoughts
Sibling fighting is a part of family life, but it doesn’t have to be overwhelming. By helping children feel seen and heard, encouraging movement when needed, and setting clear boundaries, parents can foster healthy conflict resolution skills.
Need More Advice?
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