In Part 2 of our Ask Robyn series on helping kids cope with unpredictability and self-image, we explore the importance of how we talk about ourselves and how we can encourage children to celebrate differences.

Talking About Ourselves Matters

One key takeaway from Robyn’s advice is the importance of being mindful of how we talk about ourselves around our children. The way we present ourselves and the way we discuss our appearance can significantly impact how our kids perceive themselves. It’s essential to be open about why we do certain things, like putting on makeup, and to communicate that it’s for ourselves and not just for others. For example, saying, “I like to wear makeup because it makes me feel ready for the day” helps children understand personal choices without linking them to external validation.

Encouraging Open Communication

Robyn emphasizes the value of keeping communication open with your kids. Allow them to ask questions and express their thoughts. It’s crucial to support them in being themselves rather than trying to change who they are to fit a certain mold. As Erin, a mum of four girls, pointed out, this is especially important when raising daughters who are growing up in a world where social media heavily influences appearance and self-worth.

Teaching the Theory of Mind

The concept of ‘Theory of Mind’ is crucial in helping kids understand that people can have different preferences, thoughts, and feelings, and that’s okay! It’s about recognizing that it’s completely normal to have unique ways of expressing ourselves. Encouraging this mindset helps children develop a strong sense of self and confidence.

Age-Appropriate Conversations

It’s essential to consider your child’s age when discussing appearance and self-image. Younger children benefit from simple, clear statements about why adults might do certain things. For instance, when getting ready in the morning, share why you choose a particular outfit or style your hair a certain way. This helps them understand that personal choices are about feeling good, not about meeting societal expectations.

Navigating Social Media Influences

A significant challenge today is that many adults present themselves a certain way online – not always for themselves, but for the world. Being honest with kids about this reality helps them see that it’s okay to do things just for personal satisfaction. Encourage your children to find beauty in their unique qualities and remind them that differences are something to be celebrated, not hidden.

Final Thoughts

By being mindful of how we talk about ourselves and by fostering open, age-appropriate conversations, we can help our children feel confident in their individuality. Building a healthy self-image starts at home, with honesty, support, and an appreciation for what makes us unique.

Stay tuned for more insights from Robyn in future episodes and go check out Robyn at www.playmoveimprove.com.au