Question:
How can I encourage my toddler to play on their own more? How much independent play should I expect from them? I feel like I’m their only entertainment!
Robyn Says:
You’re not alone in feeling like a one-person toddler entertainment centre! Encouraging independent play is totally possible — but it’s something that builds over time, not overnight.
First, let’s talk about the process of play. Just like learning to talk or walk, learning to play on their own is a developmental skill — it happens in stages. One of the first and most important steps is joint attention. This is when your child shares an activity or focus with you (like reading a book together or stacking blocks). These shared moments are the foundation for them eventually feeling safe and confident enough to play solo.
To support this, try to include 3–4 short moments of joint play every day. During these moments, you’re teaching your toddler how to play — and showing them they’re secure and supported. Over time, they’ll start to branch out and take those play skills into their own little adventures.
Another factor is your toddler’s attention span. Thanks to fast-moving screen content, many toddlers today can struggle to focus for more than three minutes at a time. That’s wild, right? Robyn recommends limiting fast-paced, high-stimulation shows (think YouTube shorts or fast cartoon clips). Instead, opt for slower-paced programs like Play School, which support attention and imagination without overwhelming little brains.
Real talk from Erin: Please don’t compare your child to others — especially if they’re an only child! Independent play tends to come more naturally for younger siblings because they’re watching and learning from older kids. Every child is on their own timeline, and you’re doing great.
Try starting with short bursts of solo play with you nearby (like while you fold washing or prep a snack), and give loads of praise when they manage even a minute or two on their own. You’ve got this.
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